Mara had said:
And it's not like you can shelter men in the same place as battered women, just like you can't shelter women in the same place as battered men.
And why not? The old excuses that it would bring violence into the shelter are utterly lame. The men are just as much victims of violence as the women. Why would these men who were victims of violence bring violence into the shelter? It is BS. It's a long story but it is BS. Almost every other treatment center for a variety of difficulties such as this have co-ed treatment. I have worked in numerous inpatient mental health settings. I know. It works very well. Often times the men and the women are of great support to each other, offering ideas and encouragement that would rarely come from the same sex.
So in answer to your question, I would open the existing shelters to be co-ed, to serve both men and women.
I would even go a step farther. I would encourage the perpetrator to participate in the treatment. How in the world can you treat a relationship problem if BOTH partners aren't there? Having couples be in the same treatment center would allow many therapeutic strategies that are simply impossible if you isolate the victims as is now common practice. I can hear people now claiming that this would be dangerous...blah blah blah. Well guess what? Most of the victims are going to be going home to this partner after they leave the center anyway. Why not deal with things in a controlled environment? If in the controlled environment the person proves to be a violent mess then send them directly to jail and don't pass go. By artificially isolating the parties you perpetuate the problem and in fact diminish the chance of success.
It was a breath of fresh air yesterday when I recieved a flyer in the mail for a professional DV workshop. I was delighted to see that the headline read "The sociopolitical treatment of domestic violence has been proven inneffective." It went on to say that the workshop was offering new ways to deal with DV and guess what? It had to do with relationship work where both had to be present.
Okay, enough for now.